The hospice nurse was here today to look at Mom's hand. Over her knuckles it was swollen up like a balloon, scary looking! Brenda is Mom's nurse and she is also the Owner/Administrator of the Hospice service I use. She is wonderful ... she drove probably 2 hrs out of her way to see Mom. But not just for that reason, she is just super nice and caring and knowledgeable! She feels like we probably need to start limiting the amount of time we are getting Mom in and out of bed. Since Mom is so limp and not willing to help when we try to move her she said not only is that her trying to tell us to let her be but it raises the risk of her or us getting hurt. Plus since Mom just sleeps in the recliner now and does not interact it is probably more comfortable for her to stay in her world (her room).
She also said the swelling is normal at this time due to the circulation starting to slow down and so the swelling will pop up in different places at different times. She sees all of these "signs" that say Mom is declining but I am definitely in a state of denial if she is. I see what Brenda sees but if I get one smile or one answer to a question from Mom I convince myself she is on the rebound.
Brenda really bragged on the environment I have created for her in her room ... she said she just wished all of her patients could have it so nice. That made me feel good. I cannot imagine doing it any other way but Brenda said what I do is way above and beyond what she sees for other patients. She said no matter what happens I should never doubt for a minute that I have done everything and more for Mom and the rest is just part of the natural process. I am sure the memory of what Brenda and the other nurses and aides tell me will be nice to refer back to if I ever find myself doing the woulda, coulda, shoulda!
Mom and Laverne
Mom and Ray
Mom and I
Mom, Julian, Bunni (the baby) and I
Mom, Dad and Lamar
Mom, Dad and Steve (with Stevie Lynn)
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