I am part of a Facebook group and there was a discussion about whether to think about the future or to not in regards to ALZ. I do not think there is one right answer to that because it does depend on your situation. For me though with my Mom I am very into her, where she is at, every day because I do know what is coming and so I know there will not be another chance. When my Dad started getting sick I knew nothing about this disease. I just figured where he was at then was the extent of the sickness so like we all do I fell into the, "I will do that later" or "I will visit next weekend instead" or "I will help him with his computer next time I come, I am in a hurry". If I had known then what I know now about the disease I would have known that later he will not want to do what I had planned or that if I wait another week he will not know me anymore or by the time I come back he will have forgotten how to use the computer so would not need me to help him. So though I do not dwell on the future with Mom I do keep it in the forefront of my decisions. I am fully aware what is coming ... thank goodness. I will have memories with my Mom I missed out on with my Dad ... because I did not think about the future when my Dad was sick.
Now this lesson does not apply to just loved ones with ALZ but to all of those you care about. If you think it, say it, if you think it, do it!
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